All of my life I've been told no. It's come in different shapes and forms. Sometimes it feels like a freight train and sometimes it's in foil-wrap with a bow. Sometimes its from co-workers and many times it is from friends and family:
Have you heard this from people, too? No matter how it's presented, it's always the same....an undeniable NO to ideas, movements and efforts that throw barriers in our path.
Lucky for me, my father was Scottish and my mother Hungarian - forming me with an unstoppable force of obstinance and passion. It took me years to see this as a gift. It took support from unlikely places, secret whispers and new voices who told me to push forward and fail. To take chances. To begin a journey without a map. To do what I believe in and stick to my guns. To never accept no and believe wholeheartedly that there's always a way to yes. To finish the race, even if you're last.
In the end, opinions are like belly buttons - Everyone has one but they are unique to how we have grown in our life.
But belief...true belief is powerful. Instead of offering each other our opinions, let's focus on true support and belief. Let's focus on how to support each other to succeed, not all of the reasons that we may fail. Let's roll up our sleeves to work, advocate and cheer. Let's boost each other to fly, not hold each other's feet on the ground where its safe and predictable. And finally, let's raise our daughters and sons, selves and sisters to move forward even if our product is not perfect and our path is not clear. Let's remember to appreciate all each other's belly buttons but never forget that we have our own belly to point us forward in pursuit of our dreams.
Try it today. Make today a "yes" day. Find a way to say yes to your friends, family, neighbors, coworkers and community volunteers. It's okay if yes has a few requirements around it. (Yes, we can get ice cream as soon as your homework is done! hurry up, I want mint chocolate chip. Yes, we can take Katie home, but you and she have to tell me 3 funny things about your day). Remember you are strong, smart and bold and there is always a way to yes.
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By now we've all heard the story of JK Rowlings. Single mom. Trying her best to raise her children. Trying her best to survive while life seemed to be knocking her down. But was it? Could she have found what was burning inside of her without life pushing her out of her comfort zone? Would she have worked so hard if life was easy. The truth is - life isn't easy. Just like her books, there are monsters. And bad people. And unhappy relationships. As an adolescent and teen, there are cesspools that we have to sink or swim through. And, as parents, we have a lot of responsibility to raise smart, strong and bold children. Our children are different. Some have more physical challenges and others may have confidence or mental struggles to overcome. Some are visible and some not so much. But trust me, all of our children and teens have their hills to climb.
What I love about the Harry Potter series is that is helps us remember the light which shines within each of us. Every day is an opportunity to reinforce confidence in our children and belief in ourselves. As a parent, we have a chance to proactively build our children to handle whatever life may throw at them when we're not around. And, how much our love and use of 4 little statements can make a difference in building the magic of imagination, confidence and strength in a child: I believe in you. I trust you. I love you. I won't let you fail.
Your love is the magic. Your love gives your children confidence. Your parenting, even when its strict reinforcement of the rules or holding them to certain standards, gives them strength. Failure is not missing a shot, failing a test, changing friend groups or making a mistake on social media - that is life. Failure is part of life. Success and growing up strong, smart and bold is learning from each failure and getting stronger.
In the third Harry Potter book we are introduced to the magic of the Patronus Charm, a defensive spell which creates a protective guardian around a person that takes the form of an animal. It is a pure, protective magical charm of happiness and hope and confidence that wards away the monsters which prey on our happiness and magnifies our fears. You ARE your child's Patronus and the confidence, love, belief and support that you give to your children helps them develop their own Patronus.
Visit www.pottermore.com to discover your Patronus and let your child do the same. And post yours and your child's Patronus in the comments below! Don't be afraid of the magic inside of you!
Hi! It's nice to meet you! My name is Michelle and I am the founder of Lillian Abell, mother of 4 teenagers and believer in the power of positive thinking and connectivity of the universe:) Join me in my mission to make teens and their parents strong, smart and bold by connecting us all together with experts that can finally provide us with a single source of truth. I also may drink wine on occasion....